The Hidden Lessons of Self-Publishing: How Caitlin’s Star Helped Me Grow

 I've been working on my children's book, Caitlin's Star and I must say that learning how to format the book and place the illustrations has been a long, arduous process. I will set up a website exclusively for the book but for now, I will remain here.

This task has added skills to my resume. I've learned about page bleeds and cover wraps. I've played with illustration sizes for an "8.5" x "8.5" book. I learned that Amazon requires seven key word sentences which allow customers to find your book. And so much more...

I swear it took me less time to write the story than it has to figure out all the technical details that go into a children's picture book. Formatting my previous book, Job Search for Moms was just text, easy once I got the hang of it.

I also learned about back cover design and the types of messages to announce the book. Here is my first attempt at  an announcement.

Every child’s grief is different, and every memory is special.

Caitlin’s Star is a tender story that helps children cope with loss while celebrating memories of their own loved ones. With simple prompts woven into the story, parents and caregivers can personalize the journey, making each reading meaningful and healing.

This has not been an easy task but I have promised myself that I will not give up. If no one buys the book except my family members, I will still have pride in knowing that I finally pushed myself to the finish line.

As far as job search goes, please use this as an example to learn something new, grow your talents and stretch your wings. Don't allow something overwhelming to stop you. Cut it into smaller pieces and move ahead. If you are unemployed or underemployed, use the time as an opportunity to learn a new skill. There are plenty of free sites where you can learn something new, get a certification  or refresh your current skill set.

As I near the completion of Caitlin’s Star, I’m reminded that every challenge carries its own lessons. What began as a deeply personal story has also become a journey of patience, resilience, and lifelong learning. Whether you are creating a book, seeking a job, or facing any daunting goal, remember that progress is rarely a straight line. Take it one step at a time, celebrate each small victory, and keep moving forward. In the end, it’s not just about the finished product—it’s about the person you become along the way. 

 

 

Dusting Off My Children’s Book: Learning Something New at Any Age

Have you ever taken on something completely new? Something unfamiliar that stretched you—and in the process, taught you something about yourself?

I have.

I wrote a children’s book. Actually, I wrote it 36 years ago, then tucked it away when life, work, and kids filled my days and nights. I wasn’t an artist, so I didn’t know how to bring the book to life. I had a vision for the illustrations but couldn’t afford an illustrator’s fee (these were the days before the internet, and my priorities were orthodontics and summer camp).

About ten years ago, I wrote my job search handbook, Job Search for Moms. I worked with an editor who, sadly, had to step away after a cancer diagnosis. I was determined to finish, so I turned to a self-publisher. The book was successful, and I’m immensely proud of it—but I didn’t have the marketing know-how to push it out into the wider world.

Recently, I dusted off that old children’s manuscript. I’m not sure why—maybe because I was feeling a little adrift, a bit useless and unfocused. Revisiting it reminded me of the days when I worked nonstop, giving 100% to an organization and 100% to my family. I realized I wanted to feel that sense of purpose and accomplishment again.

When I first reached out to self-publishers, I was met with chat windows and four-figure price tags. That’s when I decided to embrace something new—using technology and social media to bring this book to life on my own. I dove into research, connected with writers’ groups, and discovered reputable self-publishing companies that don’t charge upfront fees.

Then came the illustrations. I explored artificial intelligence tools to design my characters and create the artwork. I know what some might say: that using AI takes opportunities away from talented designers. But I’ve also seen AI transform my own field—job search coaching—where it now produces resumes and career tools similar to the ones I’ve shared with clients. For this project, AI allowed me to create a storybook filled with beautiful, fully copyrighted images that are uniquely mine. As I type this, AI is formatting the book into files ready to upload to a self-publishing platform.

It has been an eye-opening experience. I’m not someone who shies away from challenges, nor am I the type to say, “Let someone else do it.” I want to keep learning, keep growing, and keep pushing forward—even into my later years. This children’s book, alongside Job Search for Moms, will be part of my legacy: proof that I didn’t let indecision or “I can’t” stand in my way.

So, what about you? What are you learning that’s new? Have you taken on a fresh challenge lately? I’d love to hear your story.

And since this is my job search blog, here’s one final thought: if you’re unemployed or underemployed, learning something new—whether it’s taking a class, writing a book, or exploring a new skill—not only keeps you engaged, but also strengthens your resume. It shows future employers that you are curious, adaptable, and productive.

 

Holding Close What Matters Most

 Lately—today, yesterday, even last week—we’ve been hit with the news that people we loved, cared about, or admired have passed away. And yet, somehow, we still find ourselves arguing, holding grudges, or pouring energy into outrage over things that, in the end, don’t really matter.

 What does matter? Love. People. Friendships. Family. Life.

And life—fleeting, fragile, unpredictable—becomes more real with every passing year. It's impossible to ignore.

 

So check in on someone. Especially when things seem quiet—reach out. Not to rant about politics (because let’s be honest, most of it is just noise), but to tell someone what they mean to you. Remind them what makes them special.

 

I get it now—why my dad used to call up his old Army buddies just to say how much he appreciated them. They’d swap stories, laugh, and reconnect. That’s what it’s all about.

 

That’s life. That’s what lasts.

Rest in Peace Bob, 

Rest in Peace Cindy 

Before You Change Careers, Do This One Exercise

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Have you ever felt stuck when thinking about a career change?
You want to explore a new path, but you're not sure how to start. You know you have valuable skills, but you're unsure whether they’ll translate to a new role—or if they were only useful in your last job. It can feel overwhelming. Maybe you've even found yourself closing your laptop and thinking, “I’ll deal with it tomorrow.”

So how do you break through that feeling and get motivated?

Try this simple exercise:

1. Draw three columns on a piece of paper or in a document.

2. Find a job posting that interests you.
   In the first column, list the skills, qualifications, and requirements mentioned in that posting.

3. Reflect on your own background.
   In the second column, write down the skills and experience you already have that match what’s in the first column. Think broadly and deeply—review your past 10 years of work. What hard skills did you use? What soft skills did you demonstrate? What were your responsibilities—projects, presentations, team efforts, or specific tasks?

4. Capture your impact.
   In the third column, note the results of your efforts. What were the outcomes? Quantify where you can—how much, how many, what improved because of your work? How did your contributions help your team, department, or company succeed? Think about times you received praise, promotions, or awards. What did you do to earn them?

5. Don’t forget training or education.
   Include any certifications, courses, or relevant education—either in the second column (skills gained) or third (impact of those skills).

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Once you’ve finished, take a moment to acknowledge your progress.

You’ve just taken a significant step toward understanding your value—and you’ve begun building a stronger, more tailored resume.

You've got this.

Thinking About Changing Careers Later in Life? Here's How to Start

Making a career change in your later working years can be exciting and rewarding. Whether you're looking for a new challenge, more flexibility, or to follow a long-held passion, here are several steps to help you successfully navigate the transition:

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1. Research the Skills Required for Your New Career Path

Start by identifying the role or field you're interested in. Then, explore the skills commonly needed. A few ways to begin:

• Visit CareerOneStop for detailed occupation profiles.

• Type the job title into a search engine along with “skills needed.” AI tools can give you a quick overview.

• Look at both hard skills (technical knowledge, certifications) and soft skills (communication, leadership, problem-solving).

Ask yourself:

• a. Do you already have some of these skills?

• b. Can you give examples of how you've used them—successfully—in past roles or through transferable experience?

• c. If you're missing key skills, where can you develop them?

  • Consider options like:

    • Community colleges

    • Online platforms (Coursera, CareerFoundry, edX, LinkedIn Learning)

    • Programs like the Osher Lifelong Learning Institute (for age 50+ learners)

• d. Will you need a certification or license to enter this field?

  • Look at job postings to see what employers are asking for.

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2. Tap Into Your Network

Do you know anyone currently working in this field? Reach out to:

• Ask questions about their experience

• Seek advice on entering the industry

• Explore potential mentorship opportunities
  Even casual conversations can open doors or provide valuable insight.

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3. Gain Experience Through Volunteering or Internships

Look for opportunities to:

• Volunteer in a related role

• Take on freelance projects

• Intern or assist with short-term assignments
  This allows you to build experience, expand your resume, and test the waters in your new field.

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4. Explore Contract, Temp, or Entry-Level Opportunities

Start small if needed. Look for:

• Temporary or part-time roles

• Entry-level positions that offer a foot in the door
  Be realistic about the starting salary—it may be lower than you're used to, but it's a stepping stone toward your goal.

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5. Create a Concrete Action Plan

Outline the specific steps you'll take, such as:

• Skills to learn (with target dates)

• Courses to enroll in

• People to contact

• Resume and LinkedIn updates

• Interview preparation
  Put your plan in writing and revisit it regularly to stay on track.

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Final Thought:
Changing careers later in life is entirely possible—and increasingly common. With clarity, planning, and a willingness to learn, you can transition into a role that aligns with your current goals, interests, and lifestyle.

Beach Days and Childhood Memories

Today, a friend and I spent the day at the beach, reminiscing and catching up. Our conversation drifted back to our childhoods and teen years, and we were surprised by how many shared memories we had of growing up at the New Jersey beaches.

I spent my summers at Takanassee Beach Club in Long Branch, while she went to Sands in Sea Bright. Back then neither place was anything fancy. Even though we belonged to different beach clubs, we realized that you don’t need a specific spot to feel connected to those memories.

Here are some of the things we laughed about. Chances are if you grew up on the NJ beaches or went to a public pool and are of a certain age, you'll have similar memories!

Bathing Caps

• Wearing a bathing cap in the pool was mandatory. They had chin straps that snapped at the jaw and they had this weird rubbery smell.
• Our moms wore them too—but theirs were decorated with big, colorful flowers.
• As we got older, we graduated to racer caps. They were definitely cooler.

The Snack Bar

• The snack bar was the heart of the club. I can still smell those burgers and hotdogs. Fries, ice cream cones, paper-wrapped push-up pops, frozen Milky Ways—it was all there.
• Once you were older, you hung out there with friends, played cards, or just waited out rainy days.
• The floor was like a boardwalk, and if you dropped your change, it was gone for good—straight through the cracks. Little kids would crawl underneath to collect coins and buy ice cream.
• When it rained, everyone huddled under the snack bar awning. It was the place to be.

The Hangout Area

• As teens, we drifted away from our parents and stuck with our friend group. We only circled back when we needed snack bar money.
• Our parents didn’t worry about us much—every now and then they’d look up to check, but mostly, they let us be.
• The locker areas became unofficial hangouts too.

 The Pool

• Mornings meant swim lessons in icy water. It was miserable—but we learned to swim.
• During adult swim, all the kids sat impatiently at the edge, waiting for the whistle so we could dive back in.

The Ocean

• We both had blow-up canvas rafts to ride the waves. Hers was blue and yellow and mine was blue and red.
• There were roped-off areas for swimming. I used to sit on the rope and do backflips into the water, dodging clumps of green seaweed.
• As little kids, we stayed in the water so long our lips turned blue—and we didn’t even care.

Biking to the Beach

• Once we got older, we rode our bikes to the beach on our own.
• Every so often, I’d get a ride home on someone’s handlebars—usually a crush. It was terribly uncomfortable, but I never complained.

Whether you grew up going to a beach club, a public beach, or your local pool, these kinds of memories stay with you. They remind us of the freedom of childhood summers—and how much we all really have in common.

Lessons in Learning and Development from a Viking Tour Guide

Reflections Inspired by a Viking River Cruise Experience

 

We recently returned from a Viking River Cruise—the Lyon and Provence itinerary—and while the journey was absolutely amazing (a photo-filled post is coming soon!), I wanted to focus this post on something different: learning and development skills, specifically those demonstrated by our exceptional tour guides. I was deeply impressed by the professionalism and skill of all our tour guides, especially our Avignon guide.

At the end of our tour, a fellow guest asked the guide how she became a tour guide for Viking and what she did to prepare. If you've ever experienced one of these tours, you know how knowledgeable and engaging the guides are. Their expertise doesn’t happen overnight—it’s the result of serious preparation and practice.

As I listened to her response, I was struck by how closely her process mirrors what we do as Learning & Development (L&D) professionals. Here's are the key steps she shared, in my own words—and how they align with effective L&D principles:

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1. Become a Subject Matter Expert

Immerse yourself in the content. Study it from every angle until you deeply understand it. Anticipate the questions your audience might have, and carefully curate the content you’ll present.

2. Find a Mentor

Shadow an experienced professional. Observe how they present, engage, and manage a group. Ask questions and absorb their methods—but don’t simply copy them. Develop your own voice and style, even while covering the same core material.

3. Create Compelling Content

Make your presentations engaging and memorable by:

• Sharing stories and real-life examples

• Incorporating visuals whenever possible

• Actively engaging your audience

4. Practice, Practice, Practice

Rehearse your material multiple times until it flows naturally. Confidence comes from preparation.

5. Seek Constructive Feedback

Ask for feedback on both your content and delivery style. Learn how effectively you’re answering questions and how well your message is being received.

6. Admit When You Don’t Know

If you're unsure about something, be honest. Take the time to research the answer and follow up. Your credibility increases when you show humility and follow-through.

7. Make It Interesting and Fun

Avoid being dry or monotonous. Keep your energy up and your delivery dynamic—your audience will stay engaged and retain more information. Our guide was warm, funny and enthusiastic!

8. Get Certified

In some cases, certification is required. In others, it enhances your credibility and demonstrates commitment to your craft.

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These principles aren’t exclusive to tour guiding or L&D—they're universal and relevant across many professions. What’s key is staying current in your field, being open to new techniques, and sharing what you learn. Whether you’re leading a group of travelers through ancient cities or facilitating a training session, the fundamentals of great content delivery remain the same.

Always be curious. Always be learning. Always be evolving.