Ghosting an Interviewee

I've heard of interviewees ghosting a company after accepting a position. It's pretty despicable in my book. On the other hand, I've had a couple of clients tell me that they have been ghosted by the company that they interviewed with. They went on a few interviews, received very favorable feedback, were told that they would be hearing from them with the next week to two weeks and then nothing. My clients did the right things; wrote the thank you notes, thanked the recruiter and then nothing but a month of radio silence. 

The client wrote a follow up note at the one month mark and then I gave him a sample note to send as a final query. While my client is very disappointed, I said that I'm not sure that a company that pulls this is the kind of company he wants to work for. He agreed and has moved on. 

In my book, this annoying habit of major corporations never responding after such positive interviews is low. I don't think they realize that their tactics are a punch in the gut to the interviewee.

Protests and the Job Search

I'm a job search coach and for years I have told my college age clients to delete any incriminating pictures or commentary that might make a potential employer hesitate to bring them into their company. When there are hundreds of thousands of students vying for work after graduation, who do you think an organization will choose - the candidate with the skills and a clean record and social media presence or the candidate with the skills but with a tarnished presence?

Many of the students in the recent Hamas/Israel protests have covered their faces. They will eventually be discovered through posts, comments, AI or any other means. Students without the disguises will obviously be found sooner.

With age comes wisdom and not that anyone is asking, but my advice to those protesting? Be aware, think of your future. You've got 40+ years of work ahead of you and so many opportunities to make a difference, make money and apply all that you have learned in school into a profession you love. Use you head, don't believe everything you read or have been told. It's time to grow up.

Salary Negotiation Tips

 A retired teacher friend of mine is thinking about returning to the workforce but as an educational consultant. The company is flying her our for an interview today and she will spend a few days with them at a convention and also at their office. There are a lot of questions surrounding this new position and I think that they really want her to join their team. 

We talked about preparing for the interview, especially salary negotiation. In the state where my friend lives, salaries for teachers are based upon education and years of service. When she started teaching the salaries for entry level teachers were pretty much set. Now that she is interviewing for a business, the rules for salary are different.

The new position is for a company that sells a product and collaborates with schools. Preparing for salary negotiation is just as important as preparing for all other parts of the interview (understanding the position, learning about the company including products and services, preparing specific examples of past positive performance and projects, preparing responses to common interviewing questions, coming up with questions for the interviewer, etc). So what did we do to prepare for salary discussions?

1. We looked up salaries for similar positions in the community and within the state.

2. We settled on a salary range that my friend would find appealing.

3. We prepared a statement that would introduce the salary range when the timing was proper.

4. We looked at other job benefits that were positive and that might allow her to negotiate the salary. Some of these areas included benefits, working from home, community service and vacation time.

 5. We talked about her value and what she brings to the organization.

Today I texted my friend wishing her well on her interview. She said that she felt prepared for all aspects of the interview including the salary discussions.

Don't go in blind to an interview. Do your research and come up with a salary range that you are comfortable sharing with the interviewer. So many people forget this step and it's easy to remedy. Google "Salaries for a (position and location)". Look up some salary calculator tools including the Bureau of Labor Statistics, Glassdoor, Salary.com. and Salaryexpert.

A Yoga Drishti and Your Job Search

 If you've been following this blog long enough, you'll know that I practice yoga. I also write how certain yoga techniques can be used universally; especially in a job search. Today, while in  a yoga class, we focused on a drishti while doing the tree pose. I focused hard on the pattern of the curtain at the front of the room and stopped listening to those chatty voices in my head that were telling me that I would fall. The more I focused, the taller I stood.

To backtrack, a drishti is a yoga technique that uses a focused gaze to enhance concentration. It's usually used in balancing. It's a Sanskrit word defined as "focused gaze". Using my example from class today, the drishti directed my attention to my inner concentration. When gazing at a fixed point (the curtain) while trying to balance on my one leg, it helped to shoo out the negative words in my head and concentrate on completing the balance.

In your job search, don't let the negative voices in your head tell you that you you're not good enough to apply for a better position. Don't tell yourself that you're not smart enough, not loud enough, don't have the skills or are generally not worth it to go after that position.

Calm yourself, turn inward, focus on self care and eliminate those chattering negative voices. You ARE smart enough, you ARE good enough, you DO have the skills and mindset to go after that job. You ARE worth it. If you can, focus inwardly on something or somewhere that brings you joy and focus on the positive. You WILL succeed.

Please Visit a Dermatologist

Today I had surgery for a Stage 0 Melanoma. It was discovered about a month ago when I went to my dermatologist for my annual skin screening. I was so lucky to have a Nurse Practitioner who was thorough and eagle eyed as she spotted a pinhead sized dot on my left buttock. She took a scraping, sent it out and sure enough, it came back as a Melanoma in Situ (along with all these other words that I'd never heard of and had to Google).

The Nurse Practitioner called me into the office to go over my results rather than sharing the news over the phone and then referred me to a Surgeon/Oncologist in Naples. That began a month of appointments, discussions, pictures (!) and then today, surgery. 

My surgeon was wonderful, the team at the surgery center were kind, caring and funny and what was a scary event turned into a kind of visit with friends. I won't get my results until I meet with the surgeon in two weeks so until then, I will research Melanoma and hope that it stayed in the margins and didn't stray. 

I'm also using my job search blog as a place to tell you my story and to ask you to get your skin checked. I had a bad experience with a dermatologist in NJ about ten years ago and it left me not trusting them. I'm glad I changed my mind and have been consistently getting checked over the last few years. So please, get checked. I grew up at the beach and love to be outside. This melanoma doesn't seem to be caused by the sun, the doctor says it is most likely from my family history.

If I can make one person visit a dermatologist from this post, I'll be happy. 

PS I learned to today that a melanoma, even a stage zero can quickly spread within six weeks. That's not very long.

Preparing for a STAR Behavioral Interview

Sometimes preparing for an interview can be as challenging as participating in an interview! 

Here's a tip about charting your responses to anticipated behavioral or STAR (Situation or Task, Actions Taken and Results) interviewing questions. 

Line up the new job requirements and skills in the left column. In the middle column, think of similar requirements you may have faced in former positions and list the actions or activities you took. In the third column record your tangible results.

Valentine's Day and Your Job Search

 

How is an interview like a first date? The way you look and behave will allow your interviewer (date) to immediately know if they want to learn more about you.  Thoughtful dress, a genuine smile and eye contact are essential elements to both a date and an interview. To continue the theme, it’s important be conscious of your body language.  Sitting up straight or slightly leaning forward demonstrate your interest in the speaker and topic along with your desire to continue the conversation.

 Like a first date, an interview is a conversation; a back and forth discussion where the interviewee actively listens and engages the interviewer with insightful questions and responses.  The interviewee should be prepared to fully explain his or her comments with thought-out examples of accomplishments and career highlights.

Finally, during a first date you may be asked about your strengths and weaknesses and likes and dislikes.  These come up on an interview too and in both cases you should be prepared with examples of each.  As far as weaknesses, don’t forget to mention what you’re doing to improve so that you don’t turn off the interviewer.

I haven’t been on a first date for a long time thankfully but I do remember being prepared to talk about myself, ask questions of my date and express an interest in what he said. If he called for a second date the routine would start all over and maybe by then we’d learn if we wanted to move further or go our separate ways.

Happy Valentine’s Day!