Justice Scalia's Funeral Mass and Workplace Protocol

In my 21 years with my former company I saw a lot of good things such as community service, team work and an outstanding work ethic. I also saw the sadness and hurt of layoffs, project mishaps and the worst possible thing; employee death. It was inevitable.

It was always the deaths that disturbed and shook us all. Company policy stated that if an employee wanted to attend a wake they could, as long as they made up the work or if another co-worker covered for them. The same held true with the funeral service. 

The thing that angered me (and had my boss tell me that if I wanted to remain in Human Resources, I needed to grow thicker skin) was that the funerals for the “lower level” staff; the staff who weren’t management level, were rarely attended by the company leadership. A direct supervisor might attend but it was uncommon to see members of the leadership team. This happened so often that employees complained. It was finally addressed and some sort of unwritten policy was made. Going forward, at least one member of the company leadership team would attend the funeral and wake of recently deceased co-workers.This simple act eliminated the nagging "us vs. them" mentality and overall elitism that was so prevalent in those days.

Today’s funeral mass of Justice Scalia reminded me of those days. It was visibly different in that there was more pomp and ceremony and the people attending were friends, family, co-workers and members of our County’s “Leadership Team”. Still, I still couldn’t shake that feeling of deja vous.

Cam Newton, Football and Making Mistakes at Work

By now everyone is Monday morning quarterbacking about Super Bowl 50 and the behavior of North Carolina Panther’s Quarterback Cam Newton at the post-game press conference. For those who don’t know, after a few one word responses and some mumbles, he got up and left the interview. He was obviously angry and hurting. Still, his behavior was childish and disappointing, especially to those who support or look up to him.

Cam Newton is only 26 years old and in his short (by our standards) career he’s done a lot for the game of football, North Carolina, children and charities.  When I was 26 I made a huge mistake at work. To this day I remember the feeling of helplessness (sickness) when my boss called me into his office to explain the repercussions of my error. Since then I’ve made tons of mistakes at work and in life. This thing is, back then and now, I own up to my mistakes and take the heat. Most adults do. 

In life (and football) there are winners and losers. We get hired, we get fired. We get the contract, we lose the contract. In other words, we don’t always win the trophy. In the real world we can’t sulk, hide or walk out of work. We can’t blame others. We have to take responsibility for our own actions and set an example for others. The key is to use that failure as an example of doing better next time. Life goes on.

Steps to Personalizing Your LinkedIn Inviation to Connect

This morning I received a few generic LinkedIn invitations to connect from people I don't know. That's fine and it seems to happen more frequently than not. Still, it would be nice to know how and why you'd like to connect.

Why not personalize your invitation? There are four easy steps to personalizing your LinkedIn Invitations to Connect:

1. Go to the top of your LinkedIn page. Right next to the Notifications flag there is a silhouette, or Grow my Network icon. Click it.
2. Click, People You May Know.
3. Scroll through the names and faces of the suggested contacts and click the picture of the person with whom you'd like to connect. It will take you to their LinkedIn page.
4. Click the blue Connect rectangle near their photograph to write a short personalized note. 

You'll also be asked how you and the contact are connected (work, friend, other).
That's it. It's so easy and much more professional. Your brief note explains why you'd like to connect; maybe you share a contact, you're in the same profession, you used to work together, you liked what someone said in an update, etc. 

It's professional, easy and I wouldn't be surprised if the personalized invitations are accepted more often than the generic template kind. You wouldn't rush up to someone at a networking event and shove a business card into their hand would you? Why do it virtually?