Tuesday, November 3, 2026

We Encouraged Employees to Grow. But What Kind of Growth Did We Reward?

 

Part I: Career Development, Subject Matter Experts, and the Corporate Ladder

I've always been something of an idealist.

Throughout my career in Human Resources and Learning & Development, I believed strongly in helping people recognize their strengths, develop their skills, and reach their professional potential.

I still do.

Now that I'm retired, I've had time to reflect on some of the things I experienced and observed during my corporate years. I've begun questioning some of our traditional assumptions about career development and professional success.

In particular, I've been thinking about the difference between helping employees grow and rewarding them for that growth.

A Program I Truly Believed In

In my final corporate role, I taught a career development program built around core competencies.

Employees examined the competencies required for their current positions and explored those they would need for their next upward move.

It was a wonderful program. I genuinely believed in its merits.

Helping people understand their strengths, identify development opportunities, and take responsibility for their careers was exactly the kind of work I loved.

I believed that employees who continued to learn, develop expertise, and make valuable contributions would be recognized and rewarded.

Perhaps I was naïve.

Looking back, however, I wonder whether organizational reward systems always reflected the philosophy behind the development programs we offered.

Were we encouraging employees to grow while rewarding them primarily for moving up?

I Was a Subject Matter Expert, Too

My own career was centered on Learning & Development.

I loved designing and delivering programs, developing my expertise, and helping others become more effective in their work.

Yet I also understood that if I wanted greater compensation, recognition, and career advancement, moving into management often seemed like the expected path.

Over the years, I worked with many talented subject matter experts.

These were the people others turned to for answers. They understood their disciplines, solved difficult problems, shared their knowledge, and often served as informal mentors.

They were frequently described as invaluable.

I sometimes wondered whether their expertise was valued as highly in practice as it was in words.

Higher salaries, bonuses, stock options, and other rewards often appeared more closely associated with moving into management.

For some employees, that was exactly where they wanted to go. For others, it wasn't.

They loved their work. They wanted to deepen their knowledge, tackle more complex challenges, and become even better at what they did.

But what happened when the next upward move meant managing people rather than practicing the discipline they loved?

Why should someone have to move away from the work they do exceptionally well in order to be considered successful?

When Good Systems Meet Human Behavior

Throughout my career, I was involved in designing employee development and performance management programs.

I understood the importance of establishing SMART objectives; goals that were specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound.

Clear expectations and measurable results were intended to make performance evaluations more objective and meaningful.

I believed in those principles, too but experience taught me that even the best-designed systems depend on the people responsible for implementing them.

Performance evaluations, compensation decisions, and career opportunities don't occur in isolation. They involve human judgment, organizational priorities, and sometimes competing interests.

An employee's contributions may be exceptional, but those contributions also need to be understood and represented when decisions are made.

Not every employee has a manager who is equally effective at advocating on their behalf. Some managers are more assertive when representing their employees' accomplishments, while others may be more reserved.

And not every employee is equally comfortable advocating for themselves.

Some individuals are naturally quieter or more introverted. They may be exceptionally competent, meet or exceed their objectives, and make valuable contributions without feeling the need to call attention to their accomplishments.

Others are more comfortable making their achievements visible.

Neither personality type determines an employee's actual value to the organization.

Should the ability to promote one's accomplishments influence how those accomplishments are valued?

That's one reason objective performance standards are so important. Managers also have a responsibility to understand, recognize, and communicate the contributions of the people they supervise.

Even the best-designed employee development and performance management programs are only as effective as the people responsible for putting their principles into practice.

An organization can encourage employees to develop their expertise, establish clear performance expectations, and speak passionately about valuing talent.

Ultimately, however, its commitment is demonstrated by the decisions it makes about recognition, compensation, and opportunity.

Leadership Doesn't Always Require a Management Title

Some of the most influential people I've encountered throughout my career weren't necessarily those with the most impressive titles.

They were the colleagues who generously shared their knowledge, the experienced employees who patiently coached newcomers, and the people whose judgment and expertise others relied upon. They may not have managed departments or controlled budgets, but they exercised leadership in meaningful ways.

I wonder how many talented specialists pursued management positions because they genuinely wanted to lead people and how many did so because it seemed to be the most realistic path to greater financial rewards and professional recognition.

There's another consideration.

Sometimes an exceptional subject matter expert moves into management, only to discover that the responsibilities of managing people aren't where their strengths or interests lie.

Being outstanding in a particular discipline doesn't automatically mean someone will be equally successful managing others. The skills are different, and so are the sources of professional satisfaction.

In those situations, both the employee and the organization can lose. The employee may struggle in a role that doesn't suit them, while the organization loses someone who was exceptionally effective in their area of expertise.

Of course, many subject matter experts become excellent managers and organizations need capable managers who enjoy developing and leading others. They also need exceptional specialists who find fulfillment in their disciplines.

Shouldn't we create career paths that allow people to succeed by building on their strengths rather than requiring them to move away from those strengths?

When I Became a Business Owner

Later in my career, when I established Blackbird Learning Associates, I experienced another dimension of leadership.

As a business owner, I was responsible for managing the business, making decisions, developing client relationships, and determining its direction.

At the same time, I continued to draw upon and expand my expertise in Learning & Development, résumé writing, and job-search coaching.

I was still doing the work I loved which was helping people develop their skills and move forward in their careers.

I was also developing leadership skills through the experience of running my own business.

I didn't have to choose between being a leader and being a subject matter expert. I was both.

That experience reinforced something I had come to believe throughout my career: leadership isn't defined solely by a position on an organizational chart.

Expertise doesn't become less valuable simply because someone chooses not to pursue a traditional management position.

Career Development Isn't Always Career Advancement

An employee can develop enormously without moving up an organizational chart.

They can acquire new competencies, deepen their expertise, expand their influence, and make increasingly valuable contributions.

Growth can be upward.

It can also be lateral.

And sometimes, it can mean becoming exceptionally good at the work you're already doing.

Today, many organizations talk about alternative career paths, continuous learning, and the importance of developing talent.

That's encouraging yet I still wonder whether compensation, recognition, and advancement opportunities have kept pace with those philosophies.

I don't have all the answers, and I recognize that organizations differ in how they structure career paths and rewards.

After spending so many years helping people grow, however, I believe these are questions worth asking.

There's a difference between telling subject matter experts they're valued and creating a system that rewards them accordingly.

Looking Back

Retirement has given me the freedom to reflect on my professional life without worrying about my next promotion or performance review.

I can appreciate the opportunities I had, the programs I believed in, and the talented people I worked alongside while also questioning some of the practices we accepted as normal.

I remain an idealist.

I still believe in helping people develop their potential but I also believe we need to broaden our understanding of professional growth and ensure that the ways we recognize and reward people reflect that understanding.

An organization reveals what it truly values not only through what it says, but through what it rewards.

If we truly value expertise, shouldn't our career development and reward systems reflect that value?

I'd be interested in hearing from others, particularly those who have built careers as subject matter experts.

Have you found meaningful opportunities to grow and be rewarded without moving into management?


Coming Next — Part II: Not Every Career Moves Up: Rethinking How We Define Success

In my next reflection, I'll explore how we define and celebrate professional success, not only in the workplace, but also on LinkedIn and in society more broadly.

Why do promotions and impressive titles attract so much recognition, while lateral growth, entrepreneurship, creative pursuits, skilled trades, and later-life reinvention sometimes receive less attention?

Perhaps it's time to reconsider what we choose to celebrate.

Saturday, August 1, 2026

Facts, Analysis, Opinion

 Sometimes the clearest path isn't the easiest one to see.


For years I've noticed the bickering that seems to surround politics. It made me realize that somewhere along the way, we've blurred the lines between facts, analysis, and opinion.

To me, they're very different.

Facts answer, What happened?

Analysis asks, What might it mean?

Opinion answers, What do I think about it?

During my years in human resources and learning and development, we couldn't jump to conclusions. Whether we were writing SMART goals, conducting performance reviews, or investigating workplace concerns, we always started with the facts. Only then did we analyze what they meant. Opinions came last.

I've found that approach works just as well in everyday life.

Whether I'm reading the news, listening to a friend, or trying to understand a family disagreement, I try to pause and ask:

What are the facts?

What's someone's analysis of those facts?

And only then... what do I think?

It helps me listen a little more carefully, think a little more deeply, and react a little less quickly.

Maybe that's something we could all use a little more of these days.

Thursday, June 11, 2026

What is Your Dream Career?

 Almost every day I get a notification on LinkedIn about going back to school to learn something new or to get degree in a totally different field than what I knew. It made me think, "If I could start a completely different career tomorrow, what would it be?

The list keeps growing. Right now it's doctor, hair stylist, actor and research scientist.

At first glance, they seem to have nothing in common. Then the more I thought about it, the more I realized that my choices weren't really about job titles at all.
A doctor helps people heal.
A hair stylist helps people feel confident and cared for.
An actor tells stories and helps people feel emotions.
A researcher asks questions, looks for answers, and never stops learning.

I think our career preferences align with our personalities as much as they do with our interests. They reflect how we see the world, how we connect with others, and what brings us a sense of purpose.

Perhaps that's why certain careers continue to appeal to us, even years later. They reveal something about who we are at our core.

Perhaps our dream careers reveal less about what we wanted to do and more about who we are.

All in all, at days end, I'm glad I had the career I did.

If you could start a completely different career tomorrow, what would it be? And what do you think that answer says about you?

Tuesday, June 2, 2026

Problem Solving on a Yoga Mat

 

Years ago, I taught problem-solving skills. The model had seven stages, but let's make life easier and focus on four: Understand, Plan, Carry Out, and Look Back.

I found myself thinking about those four steps today during yoga.

I'll admit it. Sometimes I get frustrated and even a little angry with myself when I can't move the way I once did. There are poses that used to be simple and natural that now require modifications, patience, and creativity.

I'll admit something else. Sometimes I get teary.

Not in class, and not because anyone says anything. It's simply the realization that there are things I could do a few months ago that I can't do right now.

Part of me still expects my body to move the way it did before surgery. When it doesn't, I feel frustrated, sad, and occasionally angry with myself.

Then I remember that problem solving begins with understanding reality, not wishing reality were different.

The first step is to understand the situation. Since returning to exercise after my knee replacement, I know my limitations. I can't kneel directly on my right knee, and deep bends and butterflies are still difficult. That's simply reality.

The next step is to make a plan. I bought a flat-bottomed bolster that I place under my shins during kneeling poses so my knees don't touch the floor. I've learned other modifications as well. My instructors are wonderful guides.

Then comes carrying out the plan. Some days I move through the modifications gracefully. Other days, not so much.

Finally, there's looking back and evaluating. Did the strategy work? Should I try something different next time? Is there another way to approach the challenge?

Sometimes it becomes downright comical.

Just when I get myself situated without putting pressure on my right knee, the instructor flows into the next pose and I have to scramble to figure out a completely new strategy.

Today there was a movement where we were asked to stretch to the right. I couldn't comfortably move that way, so I stretched to the left. Suddenly, half the class started following my direction instead of the instructor's. Everyone laughed at the mixed signals.

Some strategies work. Some don't. When they don't, I adjust, rethink, and try something new.

The more I thought about it, the more I realized this isn't just about yoga.

It's how we handle challenges at work, too.

We understand the problem. We create a plan. We try it. Then we evaluate the results and make adjustments. Sometimes the first solution works. Sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes we accidentally lead half the team in the wrong direction. That's what happens and then we pivot and try again. 

Maybe that's where some of our best ideas come from.

I've spent years trying new approaches, seeing what works, learning from what doesn't, and adjusting along the way.

The reality is that healing takes time. The goal isn't to do everything exactly as I did before. The goal is to keep moving forward, even if the path looks different than I expected.

Whether it's on a yoga mat, in a career, or in life, progress rarely comes from doing things exactly as we always have.

Sometimes it comes from being willing to try something different, evaluate the results, and keep moving forward.

Monday, June 1, 2026

The Power of People Who Believe in Us

 


Lately I've been spending time reaching out to libraries, bookstores, community groups, and organizations to see if they might be interested in a Caitlin's Star reading or presentation.

Some have responded.

Many have not.

Like most people, I prefer hearing "yes" or even "no" to hearing nothing at all. Silence can leave you wondering if your email was received, if your message was read, or if you’re being ghosted..

Then something interesting happens.

A friend asks, "Have you thought about contacting this group?"

Someone at yoga mentions a local connection.

An acquaintance suggests a bookstore I hadn't considered.

A neighbor knows someone who knows someone.

And I find myself smiling because for years I taught job seekers the very same lesson.

As a job search coach, I often shared that many jobs are found through networking and relationships rather than online applications alone. Depending on the study, as many as 70 to 80 percent of opportunities are influenced by personal connections.

The principle is simple: people help people.

A conversation leads to an introduction. An introduction leads to a meeting. Meetings lead to an opportunity.

As I work to share Caitlin's Star with new audiences, I realize I need to follow my own advice.

Sometimes we become so focused on sending emails, filling out forms, or checking things off a list that we forget the power of simply talking with people. We forget that the person standing next to us in a yoga class, sitting beside us at a community event, or chatting with us at the gym or doctor’s office may hold the key to a door we didn't even know existed.

But there is something else I've discovered along the way.

The people offering suggestions aren't gaining anything from it. Most have no connection to publishing, bookstores, or libraries. They simply take a few moments to share an idea, make a suggestion, or offer an introduction.

Why?

Because they want me to succeed.

As I think about it, that may be the greatest gift of all.

Yes, networking opens doors. Yes, relationships create opportunities. But beneath all of that is something even more meaningful: people helping people.

The older I get, the more I realize how much kindness exists in the world. Sometimes it arrives as encouragement. Sometimes it arrives as advice. Sometimes it arrives as a few simple words:

"Have you thought about...?"

And behind those words is an even more powerful message:

"I believe in you."

What a wonderful thing it is to discover that so many people are cheering us on.

Whether you're looking for a job, promoting a book, starting a business, volunteering, or pursuing a dream, don't underestimate the value of the people around you. Sometimes the next opportunity doesn't come from a website, an application, or an email.

Sometimes it begins with a conversation.

And sometimes it begins with someone believing in you before you believe in yourself.

Thursday, May 28, 2026

What Really Matters

 People spend so much of their early and middle adulthood building careers, proving themselves, achieving, striving, and managing responsibilities. But over time many begin to realize that while work matters, it is not usually the thing they hold closest at the end of the day or the end of life. 

 What remains are relationships, purpose, meaning, moments of joy, people who mattered, animals we loved, places that felt like home, work that aligned with who we really were, and the feeling that our lives meant something beyond productivity. 

 Perhaps the most meaningful parts of our careers are not the titles we held, but the lives we touched, the encouragement we gave, and the differences we made along the way.


Wednesday, April 29, 2026

One Step at a Time

 


Yesterday, I noticed something small, but it stuck with me.

As I was walking, I realized I didn’t need to look down at every step. For weeks, I have been doing just that, watching carefully and making sure I felt steady. It was part of the healing.

But yesterday felt a little different.

I caught myself looking ahead. Not the whole time, I still glanced down now and then, but enough to notice the shift.

And it made me think about the job search.

In the beginning, it feels a lot like looking down at your feet. You are focused on the next step. Your résumé. Your LinkedIn profile. Networking, maybe for the first time in a long time. Each step takes thought, and sometimes a little courage.

It can feel slow and at times frustrating.

But those small steps are doing more than you think.

Over time, if you keep at it something changes. You get a bit more comfortable and confident. You start to lift your head and think not just about the next step, but about where you are going. The kind of role you want. The kind of company you want to share your skill set with.

You're still careful but you're looking ahead.

I guess that is how progress works, whether it is healing or a job search. It's not one big leap, but a series of small steps that slowly build confidence.

Yesterday, I noticed I was looking ahead and that felt like progress.

Tuesday, March 3, 2026

Healing Happens Here, Too

 Last Thursday, during my physical therapy session, something unexpected happened.


While my PT was pushing on my knee, the painful part of therapy, she asked what I was doing for the rest of the day. I mentioned that I was being interviewed by the local paper about my book, Caitlin’s Star.

She paused and said, “Bring it in sometime. I’d love to see it.”

So today I did.

While I was pedaling on the stationary bike for my ten-minute warmup, she sat nearby and began reading the story. As she read, she shared the book with another therapist in the clinic. That therapist had told me the week before that her boyfriend’s five-year-old niece had recently lost her mother. She believed the book might help.

Physical therapy is about rebuilding strength, regaining movement, and restoring confidence. In many ways, grief is the same. It’s not linear. Some days feel like progress. Some days feel like you want to stay in bed.

When I wrote Caitlin’s Star, I hoped it would reach families in living rooms and bedtime moments. I didn’t imagine it being read in a physical therapy clinic while I worked to bend my knee.

Loss reshapes us. So does recovery.

Both ask us to stretch beyond what feels comfortable. Both require support. Both remind us that progress is sometimes measured in unseen ways.

As I pedaled, I thought about the little girl who lost her mom. I thought about how children need language for feelings they cannot yet name. I thought about how adults need it too.

My therapist looked up and said, “This is really beautiful. I love how you can personalize it for other people and how you can keep a journal in the back for any loved one.”

The other therapist mentioned that the part of the book about the rainbow reminded her of her grandmother who passed away this fall. “She’s always sending me rainbows,” she said.

That’s the point of the story.

It isn’t just about one grandmother.
It’s about seeing your person in the pages.
It’s about remembering.

It’s about the subtle ways love still shows up — in a nail salon, a physical therapy room, a group session, or wherever it’s needed most.

Friday, February 27, 2026

Caitlin's Star - A Book About Navigating Loss for Children and Adults

 Welcome, Caitlin’s Star is an interactive picture book offering comfort to children and families navigating loss. Explore the book, media features, and related resources below.

Explore the Book 

Caitlin's Star on Amazon

Caitlin's Star on Goodreads  

 

Watch and Learn 

 Caitlin's Star Book Trailer 

Nancy Range Anderson reads Caitlin's Star here.  

Nancy Range Anderson explains how to use the interactive prompts and journal pages here.

 

Seasonal Reflections 

Holiday Memories

 

 In the News

 The Monmouth Journal 

 The Link News

The Patch News Estero, Fl

The Patch News Long Branch, NJ  

 

Connect 

Nancy Range Anderson Children's Author  on Facebook

Nancy Range Anderson Books on Instagram

Saturday, February 21, 2026

Recovery

 

Yesterday marked three weeks since my knee replacement surgery.

I did my PT twice and walked a couple of times, once around the block and once at an outdoor shopping center. By the end of the day, I felt as if I had been in a fight. My knee was swollen. My calf and ankle ached. I iced a lot and even slept with the ice machine sleeve wrapped around my leg.

Two steps forward, one step back has become my motto.

I continue to be surprised. I’ve always bounced back from things quickly, but this recovery is not linear. It is effort followed by inflammation. Progress followed by rest. Independence followed by humility.

What caught me off guard is not just the physical work, but the vulnerability. If you are used to being independent, needing help is its own kind of challenge.

In Caitlin’s Star, I write about the stars that twinkle behind the clouds. We may not always see them, but they are still there. That’s the brass ring.

Recovery feels a bit like that right now. The progress isn’t always obvious. Some days it is hidden behind swelling and fatigue. But it’s there.

 I saw this tee shirt on Amazon and think that it represents my recovery. I think I will buy it!


Wednesday, February 18, 2026

How Senior Professionals “Age Out” — And How to Prevent It

 “At some point, you age out.”

I heard President Obama say this recently on a podcast, referring to how, as we get older, we can lose touch with the cultural references and “immediate struggles” of younger generations.

I remember thinking, Did he really just say that?

It struck me professionally because it’s something I’ve written about, trained on, and spoken about since the Great Recession of 2008.

Some senior professionals don’t “age out” because they lack talent. They age out when they stop staying current.
It shows up subtly:
• Using language that hasn’t evolved with the field
• Talking about how things worked 15 years ago
• Leading with tenure instead of relevance
• Avoiding new technology instead of exploring it
• Having one résumé that reads like a job description instead of tailoring accomplishments to specific roles
• Refusing to network

Experience is powerful but relevance wins interviews.
The most successful senior job seekers I work with do a few things differently:
✔ They follow thought leaders in their industry
✔ They stay active on LinkedIn, even in small, consistent ways
✔ They learn new tools, especially AI and emerging technology
✔ They update their vocabulary to match today’s marketplace
✔ They demonstrate learning agility in interviews

They don’t try to act younger but they stay curious.

Thirty years of experience is impressive. Thirty years of experience plus active engagement in today’s trends is unstoppable.

In a rapidly changing workplace, the goal isn’t to avoid aging. It’s to avoid professional disconnect.
Stay relevant.
Stay engaged.
Stay current.
Keep learning.

That’s how you never “age out.”

Tuesday, February 17, 2026

What Surgery Reminded Me


 Two weeks ago I had knee surgery. It was routine and successful and except for the need to bend my knee more, I’m healing nicely. What surprised me most wasn’t the procedure (although parts of that were pretty brutal). It was the emotional aftereffect.

In the days that followed, I found myself more reflective. I was more appreciative of family support and aware of the kindness of friends and neighbors. I was also more conscious of how my independence quickly shifted into vulnerability.

During recovery, I thought about my mother. When we were kids, she sat beside us through fevers, injuries, and anxious moments. She remained calm offering reassurance and guidance.

That early shaping sticks with us.

When I wrote Caitlin’s Star, I introduced the idea of “Heavenly Jobs”, a way for children to think about how love and influence continue long after someone is gone. At its heart, the message isn’t abstract. It’s practical. The care we receive becomes a part of us.

Lying in that hospital bed, I realized I was remembering the lessons my mother modeled decades ago and one I hope I’ve modeled for my own children: face challenges with resilience, stay calm, and trust that you’ll get through them.

Surgery repaired my knee. Reflection reminded me that the real strength we rely on is often built long before we need it. That may be the most enduring kind of light there is.

We often discover our resilience was built long before we needed it. What shaped yours?

Saturday, February 14, 2026

Hearing the Kids Outside the Window: Recovery Then and Now


 When I was six years old, I was out of school for two weeks with something called the Echo Virus. I remember lying in my bedroom, hearing the neighborhood kids playing outside, laughing and running, and wanting so badly to be out there with them.

My mother would bring my meals upstairs on a tray. I picked at my food. Every day my sister brought home my homework from school. It was a long, boring existence for a six‑year‑old who wanted nothing more than to be part of the action.

Here I am all these years later, two weeks after a knee replacement, and I find myself in a strangely familiar place.

I’m inside again.

I read. I write. I watch the Olympics and the occasional movie. I do my exercises. I ice. I elevate. I rest. I repeat.

And just like that six‑year‑old, I can hear life going on without me.

The Impatience of Healing

This time, I understand what’s happening. I know I’ve had major surgery. I understand that bone healing takes months. Soft tissues need time to settle. Inflammation doesn’t disappear on command.

And yet, there’s a part of me that wants to push recovery into two weeks instead of the months they say it will take.

I want to hurry it along. I want to check the box. I want to be “back.”

But biology doesn’t negotiate.

When Recovery Feels Like Childhood

What surprises me most is not the pain or the stiffness. It’s the emotional echo.

That same feeling of being sidelined. That same impatience. That same longing to be where the action is.

As a child, I didn’t understand why I had to wait. I just knew I didn’t like it.

As an adult, I understand the science of healing — but I still don’t like waiting.

There is something humbling about needing help again. About relying on others. About accepting that progress will come in increments, not leaps.

The Shift That Will Come

If I look back at that six‑year‑old, I know something she didn’t know then: she would recover. She would go back outside. She would rejoin the world.

This season is no different.

Two weeks after knee replacement is still early. It is the “inside phase.” The swelling phase. The repetition phase. The slow and steady phase.

There will be a shift. Not overnight. Not dramatically. But gradually.

A little less swelling. A little more bend (uggg this part is so hard). A little more confidence.

And I hope,
one day, without noticing exactly when it happened, I’ll be back outside again.

Living the Lesson

As someone who writes about resilience and hope in Caitlin’s Star, I’m reminded that growth doesn’t always feel inspiring while it’s happening. Sometimes it feels boring. Frustrating. Confining.

But healing — whether at six years old or decades later — still requires patience.

The kids are playing outside the window.

And this time, I know I’ll join them again.

Wednesday, January 28, 2026

Preparing for Major Surgery: More Than Just Recovery

 When people hear the words major surgery, they often think about what happens afterward — the healing, the physical therapy, and the road back to strength. What I’ve learned in preparing for my upcoming knee replacement is that the preparation itself is almost a journey of its own.

It’s not just about showing up at the hospital on surgery day. It’s about preparing your home, your body, your mind, and your heart.

In a week I will be undergoing a total right knee replacement. The surgeon is using a newer method called the Zimmer  Biomet Quad Sparing Knee Replacement. This surgery is supposed work around the quad  muscle, have  less bleeding and a quicker recovery time. I'll still be out of commission  for six or more weeks with many patients feeling like themselves again in a year.

Preparing Your Space for Recovery

One of the first things I realized was how much my everyday environment needed to change — at least temporarily.

Out came the scatter rugs that could cause a slip. Shoes were moved off the floor. Even the dog toys had to find a new home so I wouldn’t trip while using a walker.

I had to think carefully about:

  • Where I’ll sit during the day

  • How I’ll get up and down safely

  • Where I’ll sleep comfortably

  • How I’ll shower without risking a fall

Simple routines suddenly required planning. It was eye-opening how many small things we take for granted until mobility becomes limited.

Preparing Meals Ahead of Time

Another important step has been preparing meals in advance.

Cooking will be difficult in the early days of recovery, so I’ve been stocking the freezer with easy, nourishing meals and organizing quick snacks within reach.

This preparation brings peace of mind. Knowing that meals are ready allows me to focus on healing instead of worrying about what to eat.

Preparing Mentally for Surgery

Perhaps the biggest preparation of all is mental.

Major surgery naturally brings a swirl of thoughts:

  • The reality of blood loss

  • The discomfort of recovery

  • The pain and effort of rehabilitation

It’s easy for fear to sneak in. But I’ve been working to replace anxiety with knowledge, trust in my medical team, and a focus on the long-term goal — better mobility, less pain, and a fuller life.

Mental preparation also means coming to terms with a sense of helplessness. At my pre-op session yesterday, both the doctor and nurses repeatedly referred to the procedure as “major surgery.” Hearing it described that way surprised me and made the reality of it all sink in even more.

I’m someone who’s used to being independent, so learning to rely on others has been its own adjustment. My husband will be walking Augie, driving me to rehab appointments once the first two weeks at home are over, and helping with everyday tasks I normally do myself.

Letting go and accepting help isn’t easy but it’s part of healing.

Understanding the Risks and Being Cautious

Another reality of major surgery is being mindful of infection.

With a new joint in place, even a small cut or scratch can become serious if bacteria travel to the implant. It’s a reminder to be extra careful, keep wounds clean, and listen closely to medical guidance. Even dental cleanings will need an antibiotic.

It may sound scary, but understanding the risks helps me stay vigilant and proactive during recovery.

Preparing the Body: Prehab and Rehab

Preparation doesn’t start on surgery day, it starts beforehand. 

Pre-surgery exercises (often called “prehab”) help strengthen muscles and improve flexibility, which can make recovery smoother and faster.

After surgery, rehabilitation exercises will be just as important. While they won’t always be comfortable, they are essential in regaining strength, movement, and confidence.

Thinking of rehab as part of the journey — not just a hurdle — has helped me mentally prepare for the work ahead.

Embracing the Journey

As someone who believes deeply in learning and growth both personally and professionally, this experience has reminded me that some of our greatest lessons come during life’s challenges.

Preparation isn’t about controlling every outcome. It’s about setting yourself up for the best possible recovery and approaching the experience with courage and resilience.

Much like the themes I share in Caitlin’s Star, this season is about trusting that even in moments of uncertainty, there is light ahead.

Learning From Others and Helpful Resources

One thing that has surprised me in the best way is just how much information and support is available.

There is a lot of helpful guidance out there on preparing for all types of surgery, and I’ve personally learned quite a bit by joining several Facebook groups where people openly share tips, experiences, and encouragement.

Hearing from others who have already walked this path has helped ease anxiety and provided practical ideas I might not have thought of on my own.

Final Thoughts

Preparing for major surgery is far more than a checklist of medical instructions. It’s creating a safe space, caring for your future self, and strengthening your mindset.

If you or someone you love is facing a major surgery, my biggest takeaway so far is this: give yourself time to prepare — physically, practically, and emotionally.

It makes the journey into recovery feel far less overwhelming and much more hopeful.




Have you been through major surgery or are you preparing for one? I’d love to hear what helped you most in the process.

Monday, January 26, 2026

When Snow Days Meant Panic, Not Peace

There was a time when a snow day didn’t bring joy or cozy moments at home. It brought panic. When my children were young and I was working full time, the announcement of school closures sent my heart racing. Schools were closed. Daycare was closed. After-school programs were closed. And my parents didn’t live close by. 

Meanwhile, our companies still expected us to be at work. Coming in a little late was acceptable, but staying home was not. I didn’t have what people would call a “critical” job. I wasn’t in medicine. I wasn’t in public safety. I worked in Human Resources at a pharmaceutical company. Important work, yes, but not work that required my physical presence during a snowstorm while juggling childcare emergencies. 

 So when snow days happened, I didn’t start calling around for help, I took a personal day or I used a vacation day. Not because I wanted time off, but because I had no choice. As a single mom at the time, there was no partner to switch off with. The responsibility was entirely mine. Later in life, when I did have a partner, we could sometimes take turns. But even then, as the mom, I usually ended up using my vacation time the most. 

What made it even more stressful was that we technically had “Work Life Balance” procedures. On paper, they were meant to support employees. In reality, if we needed time off, we were required to come up with a plan to make up that time. The message was clear. You could be away, but the work didn’t go away. There was no working from home. No Zoom meetings. No flexible schedules. No logging in from the kitchen table while kids played nearby. If you weren’t in the office, you were considered absent.For parents, especially working parents, snow days felt less like a break and more like a penalty. 

Looking back now, I realize how much unnecessary stress was placed on families Today, many people can work remotely when weather hits. Meetings shift online. Emails replace office visits. Work still gets done, often just as effectively, without forcing parents into impossible choices. The world didn’t fall apart because people weren’t physically in the building. In fact, many companies discovered something important. Flexibility works. 

 Back then, we didn’t have that option. Instead, we quietly absorbed the burden, using our own time, our own days off, and then working extra hours to make up for it. Since I used the days as personal or vacation days, I took them seriously. We played outside, made cookies and hot chocolate. The kids still remember those days too. 

 For many parents of my generation, they were filled with anxiety. And the truth is, much of that stress was unnecessary. The systems simply weren’t built with families in mind. I’m grateful that today’s parents often have more flexibility. It’s not perfect, but better. I hope companies continue learning that productivity doesn’t require rigid rules that ignore real life. Because raising children is already challenging enough. We don’t need snowstorms turning into emotional emergencies.Sometimes progress isn’t about working harder. It’s about working smarter and kinder.

Monday, January 19, 2026

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